Unless you never read a thing that I post on Facebook and Twitter, by now you know that my brother Mitch is back in Iowa after being deployed with the U.S. Navy. I went ten months without seeing my baby brother. And I was not alone. His friends and our family, as well as his girlfriend, endured the same length of time without seeing Mitch in person.
A lot can happen in ten months:
My sister Sarah became pregnant with baby number four.
Our dad retired from his sales and marketing job of 19 years.
I crossed off a bucket list item when I appeared on the Today Show on Caucus Day.
Nephew Gabriel and Niece Lucy completed another year of school.
Gabriel, Lucy, and and Niece Amelia all grew a ton. I feel like they grow too much when I haven’t seen them in a couple of weeks. I can’t imagine how different they are after ten months!
Numerous terror attacks took place across the globe.
Iranians fired missiles at my brother’s carrier.
My brother’s carrier was featured on CNN for setting a record number of bombs launched against ISIS.
Mitch’s deployment was extended by one month.
As if I wasn’t emotional enough in my normal state, I now get teary eyed around anything patriotic, having to do with the armed forces, etc.
Mitch shared some amazing photos and videos with us during this past week. The views were breath taking, and the sleeping quarters were insanely small. They provided a unique glimpse into my brother’s new life as a sailor.
We only have a few more days with brother Mitch before he goes back to base. This time he is taking a piece of home with him though – girlfriend Hannah. So, while this big sister is fighting back tears, I will be so excited for the new adventure ahead for the two of them together.
Thank you SO MUCH to everyone who has offered words of encouragement, given hugs, and simply let me babble (happy babble, interchanged with the-world-is-going-to-end babble) on and on and on and on. We know there will be another deployment, and I will always need my tribe to talk me off the ledge and then hand me a glass of wine.
I felt like a bad aunt. I had talked to G and L about the possibility of a new job since November. And my gut told me after the first interview that I had a very good chance of landing this new job. It was a great opportunity for me. However, it would mean no more Fridays with G and L. I’d just have to make a little more effort to carve out time for G and L after the first of the year.
It still brings tears to my eyes when I think about MY day with G, and then both G and L, over the course of the year and couple of months between October 2010 and December 2011. When each of those kiddos was born, I vowed to be an aunt whom they would know well and be able to come to for anything. I am very fortunate to live only 30 miles away from them, so it’s not like I was never going to see them again. But yet it would be different.
Then I thought of all of the milestones yet to come, and how I needed to brace myself for those. I could continue be a strong presence in their lives without my own day. While I felt selfish at the moment, the tables will turn soon enough when they are older and making decisions in their own lives.
I thought about all of the families who are living hundreds or thousands miles apart. And I thought about those who I am close to whom I don’t see all of the time. It’s about the effort and quality time.
And it was time to start a new chapter, as painful as it might be. I needed to find my career path again, as I felt I had been floating around since I left Victory Enterprises in early 2010.
My sister and brother-in-law have endlessly thanked me for babysitting their kids. I always tell them I enjoy it, and even that is an understatement. I learned so much from my Fridays with G and L. They inspired me to start blogging about them. They reminded me how trivial my problems were when I saw their faces light up. While I didn’t cry as much as I thought I would when I drove home that night, I dreaded bringing this chapter of my blog to a close. So I procrastinated with these final posts. I didn’t want to type and cry at the same time.
Then I realized I had all of this new material for a new chapter: “Mel, G, and L”. A NEW CHAPTER. When one door closes, another opens.
Eight months after leaving a full time team member position at Target Optical, I was offered a position to return as the Optical Team Lead in the Davenport store. Sometimes one needs to leave something to know how much she loved it. So was the case with Target Optical. I gave my notice at Rainbow International of the Quad Cities upon returning from…….
2. Bestie Jen’s wedding in Kansas City: well worth the wait.
Jen and I have been friends since the fall of 1997. In some ways it seems like it was just yesterday we were chatting it up at random places on the Simpson campus. Then when you consider all the things we have done since then, 1997 seems like a totally different lifetime ago. This was going to be a tough one because I was so happy for her. After all of the ups and downs, she found a guy worthy of her. It was worth the wait. We had a blast that day, especially on the dance floor. Surprise, I know. 😉
3. The Bix
After thinking through all of the career move stuff and being busy and having so much fun with Jen’s wedding, it was a welcome energy release to run the Bix at 6 a couple of times in preparation for The Bix at the end of July. I finished in about 90 minutes, which was about the same time I had finished in two years ago. Maybe I need to train more seriously next year? It’s fun regardless of where I finish – as long as I am not the last one to cross that finish line.
How is it only eight days until Jen’s wedding? Sure, these past few weeks have been crazy, but it still snuck up on me. I had my dress and shoes in hand about three weeks before the wedding date. And the dress hung in the plastic bag for a good three days before I mustered up the courage to try it on.
I tried it on, and it fit! Well, mostly. Needed to take in the top. Story of my life. Not mad, just a predictable fact.
I also tried on my bridesmaid dress from sister Sarah’s wedding. Still fits! Woot! So what if I never followed through with this UBWP thing? (In my defense, I have run/walked the one and only Bix at 6 that has been held so far this year – 7 miles!!!) The dress still fits!
And one must not forget the shoes!
I finally took my dress to be altered at the beginning of this week. Delorus Bockwoldt near Durant is amazing. She’s an older lady who took care of all of the dresses for my sister’s wedding. I called up Delores, trecked on three miles of gravel with Smurfette, and the dress was pinned and ready to go. One day later, I received the phone call that it was ready for pick up.
One week from today at this time, I will be at rehearsal in Loose Park in downtown Kansas City. Unreal that my bestie from college is getting married. So happy for her!
Since April is mostly gone, I suppose it would be past time to recap March.
1. I joined BNI: power networking at its best.
2. Enjoyed a First Friday at the Mississippi River Distilling Company in LeClaire. With the exception of real Kentucky bourbon at the NFRW convention a few months ago, their Cody Road is the smoothest ever.
3. The Governor & Lieutenant Governor came to town.
4. St. Patty’s Day in Downtown Davenport. Stay tuned for the blog post.
5. Return of spiders. They are still friendly. My only issue is deciding whether to rename them or not. Are they the same ones as last year? Can’t really tell.
6. Met up with my red headed cousin Lena at my Grandpa Fosaaen’s old house in Ossian.
7. Began work on an office/bedroom in my Dad and stepmom’s farm house near Decorah.
8. Weekly Mad Men viewings with Beth. We watch on Mondays and with wine. Simply fabulous.